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Why a special dating site for big people?
Big people are special. Their interests just aren't the same as most people's. As a result, traditional dating sites just don't work well for them. For one thing, if you're looking for a big person, you'll have to sift through tons of profiles on other sites before you'll find any. For another, the kinds of activities asked about on the other sites are of little interest to big people.
We use a highly sophisticated method to score matches. Because big people have different attitudes about what constitutes a good match. And using an "overall" scoring system, as other sites do, just wouldn't cut it for you. Not only do we use a special "big person" scoring system, you get to pick your top 3 criteria so that your matches can be ranked to reflect your own special criteria.
Big people make the best friends and lovers, because they're loyal. That's why we developed this site.
We run the friendliest and easiest to use dating site on the web. Your privacy is assured. You have the option of anonymously blocking members who are not acting properly. You can be assured of having a pleasant and enjoyable time meeting new people.
Learning more about Big 2 Big is simple, just give us a try. It's free to sign up and to explore all the features we have to offer. Click here to enter your free profile.
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Subject : thanks
Comments : I've tried several other online dating sites and only came across men who were very judgmental or unmotivated. There's this stereotype that gamer guys are lazy and boring, but I'm happy to say that every guy I've dated that was a geek was way cooler as a boyfriend than the non-geeks. I'd like to thank you for bringing me together with a very sweet and very caring guy with whom I have a lot in common, and who likes me just the way I am, flaws and all. (And I think he's pretty darn adorable just the way he is too.)
Live Journal entry:
The next time I checked my email, though, I found a message from someone who had read my profile on gk2gk.com, a geek personals website: "You're awesome. I just thought you should know that." It cheered me right up. I always crave messages like that, but I never get them. I looked at her profile and considered her equally awesome. I knew right away I had made a new friend. I never expected to find anyone who really interested me on that website, because they all seemed like computer or science geeks, and I really couldn't find much in common with most of them. But I decided to put up a profile anyway, simply because, well, you never know. And I was right. I asked her to send me an email, as short or as long as she wanted, and I was so happy when it was one of the longest emails I'd ever received from anybody! I love long emails. We've sent many long emails back and forth. Read entire post
"A lot of people [on the gk2gk site] see the word 'geek' in a positive light," he said. "They are looking for those interests that most people would say, 'That's weird.' "
"Thanx dude, and once again GREAT site. I've already had 300% more results than 30 other dating sites."
"I just wanted to let you know how amazing this site is. Although I'm not using it, I have a boyfriend who is a geek, and he's great. He is the best boyfriend in the world and is way smarter than all of my friends jock boyfriends. I'm no dummy either though, so maybe they're just not smart enough to figure it out. I'm sure lots of people will find great relationships with the help of this site."
"Barhopping is not really my thing, but traditional dating sites lacked the kinds of guys I was looking for. I found several special people on your site. Thanks."
"Thank you. I met Jed on Geek 2 Geek and knew it was right."
"I'd like to thank you for your service. I found love at Geek 2 Geek. You brought me together with a great guy."
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News articles:
Chicago Tribune, June 28, 2006
For the last year and a half, those who are uncomfortable flirting in the real world have had an online option in Gk2Gk.com, a Chicago-based Internet dating service catering to . . . well . . . geeks.
When computer programmers, mathematicians or scientists register on matchmaking sites such as Lavalife, eHarmony or Match.com, they often feel that they don't fit the mold, according to Spencer Koppel, 64, who as a retired actuary (and veteran geek) created this dating service for the spectacled set.
"I felt that the target users of a geek-matching site would be much more concerned about matching their interests than about looks," he said. Read entire article
From the Chicago Sun Times
By Sandra Guy, Chicago Sun Times, October 25, 2005
Leave it to a retired Chicago actuary to weigh the risks and rewards of starting an online dating site for geeks.
The rewards are proving enormous.
Spencer Koppel, 64, creator of the site, www.gk2gk.com (the letters stand for "Geek to Geek"), credits his 26-year-old daughter, Laina Van Dyke, with suggesting the idea of the dating site.
The site features an advice columnist named "The Geek Goddess," lists of favorite geek movies, books and video games, and hyperlinks to resources such as a dating forum, a database of board game information and Web sites devoted to geek culture and interests.
Van Dyke said she had become intrigued by online dating sites because some of her friends used them. Her friends who weren't talking about online dating were "complete geeks," she said.
She thought, "Why not put the two together?"
A Web site member who asked to remain anonymous said his success in meeting a fellow geek has been freeing.
"The biggest thing is that, when I act like a geek, it doesn't bug her," he said. "We accept the quirks in our personalities without being embarrassed about them. It's a lot of fun to meet and learn about someone who's as geeky as I am."
The 28-year-old self-described geek and his 25-year-old girlfriend both speak French and Japanese. They both competed in quiz bowls and attended math and science classes in the summertime while they were in school. The gk2gk member said his other interests are computers, science fiction, Star Trek, Harry Potter and reading books such as The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy.
The gk2gk member urged others to express themselves honestly on the Web site. Where geeks meet to greet other geeks Read entire article
Nerds Make Better Lovers
By Tracey Lomerantz, New York Daily News, June 9, 2005
How can a savvy girl land a geek of her own? Spencer Koppel, a self-proclaimed geek who attends crossword-puzzle tournaments on weekends, has made it easy for girls with their eye on the prize with his "Geek to Geek" dating service, www.gk2gk.com.
Members can meet and select a perfect mate (guys with screen names like "thinkspecs" and "ivygrad") based on favorite board game and gadget instead of eye color, height and other categories the nerds might be lacking.
And according to Koppel, the pool is stocked with supreme sci-fi fans and accomplished intellects.
"I think geeks are more successful. They're happier in the work they do," Koppel said. "And they're pretty faithful people, because they're certainly grateful for anything they have." Read entire article
Geek 2 Geek
By Caitlin Carroll, columnist for the Washington Post, June 5, 2005
Searching for a Han Solo of your very own? Or the gal who can reformat your hard drive? Geek 2 Geek ( ), an online dating service for self-proclaimed nerds, is for you. The three-month-old site aims to help bookworms, obsessive gamers and other pocket-protecting types nationwide find love.
The rules are simple: Members come up with user names like "Tall, Dork and Handsome" or "Preppy Trekkie," then create a free profile that includes information such as their favorite board game, Web site or gadget. The only thing not allowed? Posting a picture. "Typical match sites -- they base it on how somebody looks," says Spencer Koppel, Geek 2 Geek's creator, who hails from Chicago. "Geeks just don't care about that." Read entire article
Dancing geek to geek
By Jane Ganahl, columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle, May 8, 2005
Sick of being treated poorly by handsome -- or beautiful -- yuppie scum? Single people who put their needs first? Tired of cruising the big dating Web sites and hooking up with people who look great in their profiles but more like Quasimodo up close?
What you may need is a geek. Geeks are brainier than most, wear pocket pen protectors proudly and tape their glasses when they break. They miss class or work when they get too absorbed in a game of Dungeons & Dragons or in a "Star Trek" marathon on TV. Geeks are tenderhearted because they have not been treated kindly by our culture. They are looking for love. Read entire article
Some things you should think about when using Internet Dating Services, including Big 2 Big:
Big 2 Big is a great place to meet people. Whether you decide to correspond online or meet members off-line, you should use sound judgment and be responsible for your conduct. Common sense is your best safety tool.
1. Use caution right from the start.
If someone seems too good to be true he or she probably is. Begin by communicating using winks and messages, then look for odd behavior or inconsistencies. The other person may not be who or what he or she says. Trust your instincts. If anything makes you uncomfortable, stop immediately.
2. Do not reveal your identity until you are comfortable.
All correspondence between members on this site ensures your true identity is protected until you decide to reveal it. Never include your personal information in your profile or initial messages. If you go outside our message system to communicate with someone, turn off your email signature file. Use an email service such as yahoo or hotmail, setting up an account just for communications such as this. That way, if a person begins to harrass you, you can simply discontinue that account to prevent further problems. Stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for personal information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it.
3. Get photos
A photo will give you a good idea of the person’s appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling. In fact, it’s best to view several images of someone in various settings: Casual, formal, indoor and outdoors. If all you hear are excuses about why you can’t see a photo, consider that he or she has something to hide.
4. Continue to exercise caution and common sense
Careful, thoughtful decisions generally yield better dating results. Guard against trusting the untrustworthy; suitors must earn your trust gradually, through consistently honorable, forthright behavior. Take all the time you need to test for a trustworthy person and pay careful attention along the way. If you suspect someone is lying, he or she probably is, so act accordingly. Be responsible about romance, and don’t fall in love with just a profile. Don’t become prematurely intimate with someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online. If you mutually decide to go that route, be smart and protect yourself.
5. Phone first
A phone call can reveal much about a person’s communication and social skills. Do not reveal your personal phone number to a stranger. Use a cell phone number instead or use local telephone blocking techniques to prevent your phone number from appearing in Caller ID. Only furnish your phone number when you feel completely comfortable.
6. Don't meet face to face until you are ready
You never are obligated to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy. Wait until you feel comfortable, you have gathered enough information, and are sure a meeting is appropriate.
7. Meet in a safe place
When you choose to meet off-line, always tell a friend where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date’s name and telephone number with your friend. Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home. Provide your own transportation, meet in a public place at a time with many people around (a familiar restaurant or coffee shop is often a good choice), and when the date is over, leave on your own as well. If at some point you and your date decide to move to another location, take your own car. When the timing is appropriate, thank your date for getting together and say goodbye.
8. Alcohol and medications.
Refrain from drinking excessively, as it could impair your ability to make good decisions. Never leave your drink unattended. Do not mix alcohol with medications if you are uncertain of the effects.
9. Get yourself out of a jam
Never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to defuse the situation and get out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice, ask someone else on the scene for help or slip out the back door and drive away. If you feel you are in danger, call the police; it’s always better to be safe than sorry. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior; your safety is much more important than one person’s opinion of you.
10. Take extra caution outside your area
If you are flying in from another city, arrange for your own car and hotel room. Do not disclose the name of your hotel and never allow your date to make the arrangements for you. Rent a car at the airport and drive directly to your hotel. Call your date from the hotel or meet at the location you have already agreed on. If the location seems inappropriate or unsafe, go back to your hotel. Try to contact your date at that location or leave a message on a home machine. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information. And if possible, carry a cell phone at all times.
11. Watch for red flags
Pay attention to displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts to pressure or control you. Acting in a passive-aggressive manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behavior are all red flags. Ask a lot of questions and pay attention to their answers and the way they respond. Are they fluttering? Do they avoid direct answers about their past, their family and where they're from? Ask specific questions, such as, "Are you married?" If they stutter or act stunned, that might be a red flag.You should be concerned if your date exhibits any of the following behavior without providing an acceptable explanation:
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Provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc.
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Refuses to speak to you on the phone after establishing ongoing, online intimacy.
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Fails to provide direct answers to direct questions.
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Appears significantly different in person from his or her online persona.
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Never introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members.
12. Scam Warning
Foreign profiles are more likely to be scams trying to part you from your money, especially Eastern European and African profiles. There are legitimate matches there, but you need to be extra careful and investigate the person you are looking to date. We recommend that you never send money or any other support to any user for any reason.
13. Background Checks
Geek 2 Geek warns its members that Internet dating can be risky. We do not do any background checks of our users. Our research finds that background checks are not foolproof, regardless of how well they are done. Geek 2 Geek members should get to know a potential date well before agreeing to meet. Initial meetings should use common sense, such as meeting in a public place or being with a friend. Be careful, don't believe everything you hear. You may wish to do a background check before getting seriously involved with someone you meet on Geek 2 Geek or any other way.
A person who misrepresents his or her criminal history or marital status to Geek 2 Geek for the purpose of gaining access to communications and membership privileges could be subject to civil and criminal penalties under United States federal and state law. In addition, fraud through misrepresentation may be a violation of terms of parole. Geek 2 Geek pursues multiple remedies under law against criminals and married individuals who seek to prey upon our members. We take criminal and married predation personally. Those who misrepresent their criminal history or marital status to gain access to our members will face all that we can legally do to protect our members. If you learn of a member of Geek 2 Geek who has misrepresented his or her criminal history or marital status, please notify us immediately.
14. Health Background Checks
If a relationship leads to sexual contact, you potentially are at risk for a variety of health hazards and for pregnancy. We do not screen our members' health background. We recommend that neither of you have sexual contact until you both have an STD screening. Make sure to consult your physician or public health authorities for safety advice.
15. Age Verification
Big 2 Big does not make its services available to anyone less than 18 years of age. However, we do not verify ages. Thus, it is your responsibility to ensure that any relationship you have with one of our members is legal. If you have evidence of an under 18 year old on our system, please report the abuse to us.
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